So gossip and drama is a thing. Unfortunately, it’s a thing I see all too often in the world around me, especially with girls. For some reason, girls seem to be prone to drama and gossip and slander. We seem to forget that we are called by God to love even our enemies, and instead become intent on destroying the other person. This attitude is wrong, and I’m getting sick of it.
Lilly Singh, or iiSuperwomanii, has over 9 million subscribers on YouTube, and decided at the end of last year to use her platform to speak out against girl-on-girl hate and drama. She posted this video to explain the idea:
Lilly started the #GirlLove trend then, and since then has recently started a movement on her YouTube channel about #GirlLove, because she was sick and tired of seeing girls fighting and causing drama, so she decided she should try to do something to fight this trend of girl-on-girl hate. I wish more people shared Lilly Singh’s attitude towards this issue. She isn’t a Christian, so doesn’t view this issue entirely through Christian lenses, but she speak the truth. This is a real issue and it needs to stop.
See, as Christians, we are called to be loving. In Matthew 5:44, Jesus says,
“But I say to you, Love your enemies and pray for those who persecute you.”
Our Savior tells us to love even our enemies. Matthew 5:46-47 explains why, saying,
“For if you love those who love you, what reward do you have? Do not even the tax collectors do the same? And if you greet only your brothers, what more are you doing than others: Do not even the Gentiles do the same?”
It’s hard to love our enemies. Jesus knows this. But that’s why He tells us to love our enemies. Because we can do it with His help, and in doing so, we can imitate Christ’s love for us. Who knows, maybe our love for our enemies can lead others to salvation in Christ. Doing the right thing is never easy. We are sinful people with sinful hearts. We were born into sin, and it’s inevitable that our hearts and minds will be drawn towards evil. But the thing is, Philippians 4:13 says
“I can do all things through him who strengthens me.”
This means that we can even do something good, if we have Christ as our Lord and Savior. So don’t tell me that you can’t love that person, because you can-with His help.
There’s a poem by Emily Dickinson that talks about hate versus love
I had no time to hate, because
The grave would hinder me,
And life was not so ample I
Could finish enmity.
Nor had I time to love; but since
Some industry must be,
The little toil of love, I thought,
Was large enough for me.
Dickinson’s point in this poem is that hate is a waste of time, while love, while it takes time and effort, is worth all the time and effort put into it. Lilly Singh, aka iiSuperwomanii, expresses the same idea in these tweets:
She basically stressed the idea that drama and hate are such a waste of time, and we could spend our time on better things, such as loving others. I agree with her, because you really don’t gain anything by hating other people. All you gain is a reputation for drama, which causes people not to trust you. When you’re kind and loving to others, you gain their respect, love, and friendship, which is much better than a bad reputation and lack of trust.
I just wish that girls would stop ruining other’s reputations, hurting other girls, and just generally bullying and slandering girls, creating drama situations. I honestly don’t care what you’re fighting over, there is no reason that you should do that. That person was created in God’s image, and as a bearer of God’s image, every person should be treated with respect, regardless of whether you agree with them or not. Because we are called to love others, regardless of what they’ve done. We were the worst of sinners, right alongside the murderers and idolaters. We hated God so much so that we did everything we could to run away from Him. Yet He loved us so much that His son died on the cross to save us from our sin, so that we could live in paradise with Him for eternity. He loved us so much that despite our wickedness, He was willing to die for us. I know that we, as fallen, broken people, are incapable of doing good apart from Christ, but I think that we as Christians are called to struggle to love our brothers and sisters in Christ, no matter what they’ve done to us.
Ephesians 4:29-32 says:
Let no corrupting talk come out of your mouths, but only such as is good for building up, as fits the occasion, that it may give grace to those who hear. And do not grieve the Holy Spirit of God, by whom you were sealed for the day of redemption. Let all bitterness and wrath and anger and clamor and slander be put away from you, along with all malice. Be kind to one another, tenderhearted, forgiving one another, as God in Christ forgave you.
I think that passage speaks for itself. Please, ladies, don’t gossip and slander against other girls. Try to build others up instead.